Blog #26- Invitation of an Alarm Clock

September 23, 2014

No matter the sound, whether loud and clanging or gentle and soothing, an alarm clock achieves its purpose – to break into a dream and to interrupt a deep or fitful sleep.

The alarm is on hand to offer a new day. Flapping window shades provide a peek outside to indicate weather conditions – sunny – cloudy – rainy plus hot –muggy-cool. The alarm also heralds another “ to do list” or alternative form of predetermined plan.

However, despite good intentions to follow a schedule, one’s “map” for the day could be interrupted by a surprise message of unforeseen good news or a curve ball of crisis. The choice to respond to the alarm and move forward into a never before experienced day results in new problems and also new possibilities. We respond accordingly. Time to get up!

Blog #25-Launching Out into the Unknown

September 26, 2013

Life has a way of offering opportunities to make personal and professional transitions. This comes in the form of job changes, assignment shifts, weather and seasonal changes, children growing up and leaving home for their next step in life,  and the death of a dear and close person.

 

When such events occur individuals can feel like they have been hit hard, that the wind has been knocked out of their very souls and that the routines that were once so regular and predictable are things of the past, never to be retrieved again. 

 

Facing the blank slate of uncertainty, those struck with such sudden changes will wonder how to go forward and how to envision the next month, much less the next moment. 

 

Such times, when the heart is adrift and circumstances signal more unknown than normalcy, create havoc within and without. Surroundings may look the same but the world feels as if something is very wrong. 

 

So what then? Aim to… Accept gradually. Breathe deeply. Move ahead gently. Connect carefully. Feel genuinely. Speak openly. Look at life spiritually. Rest regularly. Remember gratefully. 

 

At least give such movements a try while pivoting into the unknown. 

BLOG #24

May 14, 2013

Dealing with Dread

I dread….going to the dentist…paying the bills…working on the finances…cleaning the closet…returning the phone call…going grocery shopping…seeing my son go off to university…having another job interview…the return of winter…having foot surgery…opening this e-mail…

Dread can be attached to a continuous variety of thoughts about typical daily events or about sad occasions yet to happen. They can pile up and create discomfort.

Though dread exists in the mind, the events that one dreads are likely to happen and may be so imminent that they are on the calendar for later in the day. How does one get out from under the negativity of dread?

Following are three tips:

1.Mentally slice the tasks apart and consider that there are progressive actions that are done during the dreaded event.
2.Stay in the moment realizing that the time dreaded will eventually be over.
3.Take a deep breath and change the direction of your thinking toward a book you are enjoying, the buds on the trees or something pleasant you are planning.

Dread is real and so are the events that we dread. Yet it does not have to take charge or our days.

BLOG #23 “Anything Beneficial about Having THE BUG THAT IS GOING AROUND?”

January 10, 2013

Ok, lots of people caught “it” now. I am one of them.
So…what is the plan here? Feel sorry for myself or find some benefits?

Well…#1 I have an excuse to read and read and read. That is great as I have been loving stories and new ideas.

#2 Making some connections on line. Nice to always hear from friends and contacts.

#3 Focus on the home front. I can see clearly what needs to be done to catch up. While doing a bit of that due to low energy, I can get back to the reading in between things to be done ….or

am I getting a few things done here in between the reading and connecting!

Back to the books soon!

Blog # 22- Reducing Pressure

May 27, 2012

Sometimes we experience pressure on all sides. It is as if we are backed into a corner. Where is there to go? Are there options?
Consider that the pressures of life are separate entities. They may not evaporate very easily or even go away at all. So, after acknowledging the pressures, create other entities to reduce the impact of these pressures. By taking a walk, getting a massage, breathing or reading a light novel, we can distance the pressures. Then, once back at it, we are able to handle our stress more easily.

Blog # 21 One More Article on Holiday Stress?

December 15, 2011

Any of us could probably write the standard article on holiday stress. There have been myriads of them. We know the basic principles of stress management. Employing them during the holidays is a wise idea. However, there is another aspect to handling the holidays that we may not always consider.

It is a given that during this season the typical challenges of life and human tragedy do not subside. Economic and family issues from the past and present remain. Grief, loss and health issues continue. Aging advances.

Juxtaposed among all of these aspects of life are the lights, sights, smells and sounds of the season. Because of this one has two choices. Use this as an opportunity for feeling even worse about one’s circumstances or gather the message of the season into one’s heart and being in order to carry on with more balance and hope.

Blog #20 “There is Always a Way”

October 8, 2011

While driving on a four lane city road recently, I noticed a squirrel scampering across a wire suspended over the road. This critter was in a big hurry and it appeared that it was not going to let traffic delay the journey to the trees on the other side of the street. So, the squirrel took the fastest option – up a pole, over a wire, down a pole.

Sometimes we let obstacles stand in the way of our achievements and problem solving strategies. It may be that if we follow our instincts, just like this squirrel, we can find a ready option to assist us in moving forward. The solution could be right in front of us and if we get too bogged down in analyzing what to do, we may miss the straightest route to optimal results.

Blog # 19 “The Gift of a Glimpse”

September 23, 2011

Some months ago I was traveling on Interstate 94 and happened to glance to my right. In doing so on this foggy day, I caught a glimpse of a young boy petting a horse.

This was a moment of fondness that caught my attention. This quiet transfer or affection between a boy and this gentle animal was something that I believe worth noticing.

I passed very quickly and I watched the boy and the horse for only an instant. Yet it was a powerful scene that gave me pause to consider the beauty of a small moment in time.

Our lives pass quickly as did my car. Yet there is much to see in each second. We have the opportunity to notice and reflect on the beauty of life on a constant basis.

It is up to us to consciously decide to watch for special moments that capture our attention. What will you notice today?

Blog # 18 – “Personnel Hurricanes”

September 9, 2011

Recently we have seen news reports and some have even experienced the hurricanes on the east coast. These were powerful forces to be reckoned with.

In our lives as well we experience personal hurricanes in that we are pummeled and knocked down by difficulties and challenges. Just when a storm seems to have passed, another, like on the east coast, follows in its wake.

What can we do to survive our personal hurricanes? Following are five suggestions to find “land” again.

1. Stay in the present and get concrete. Read the label on a can. Make lasagna. Watch the birds at your feeders.
2. Talk to a friend. They know you best
and can hear your hurt and help you
pare it down to size.
3. Drink water to bring your body back to life.
4. Rest to bring back perspective.
5. Seek the spiritual for grace to go forward on a solid path.

Hang in there and find your answer in the aftermath of the storm. Calm will eventually follow.

Personal Hurricanes

September 9, 2011

Recently we have seen news reports and some have even experienced the hurricanes on the east coast. These were powerful forces to be reckoned with.

In our lives as well we experience personal hurricanes in that we are pummeled and knocked down by difficulties and challenges. Just when a storm seems to have passed, another, like on the east coast, follows in its wake.

What can we do to survive our personal hurricanes? Following are five suggestions to find “land” again.

1. Stay in the present and get concrete. Read the label on a can. Make lasagna. Watch the birds at your feeders.
2. Talk to a friend. They know you best
and can hear your hurt and help you
pare it down to size.
3. Drink water to bring your body back to life.
4. Rest to bring back perspective.
5. Seek the spiritual for grace to go forward on a solid path.

Hang in there and find your answer in the aftermath of the storm. Calm will eventually follow.