Archive for May, 2010

Supporting Those Who Struggle – Blog #4

May 24, 2010

Supporting Those Who Struggle by Mary Z. McGrath

A friend just lost his job that had offered him personal stability and financial security. A coworker has to take a leave of absence to care for her father with a serious illness. A neighbor explained that their child cannot manage in the public school and they are seeking an educational alternative.

Sometimes learning first hand of the difficulties of others can be very frustrating. You want to help and support them. Yet you realize that carrying your own life load is a challenge in itself. How can you be a gift on their journey and still manage your own daily difficulties and struggles?

When someone shares their circumstances with you,  be present. Offer empathy and understanding. Share a story of someone you know who had overcome a similar challenge. Mention a time in your own life when things were tough and how they turned out well in the long run.

We cannot always completely remove the burdens of others. However, we can offer them a small bit of understanding and hope that contributes to a lighter load for them. Doing so brings meaning to our own troubles and assists others in navigating through theirs.


Blog #3- “Implementing Plan B”

May 14, 2010

Implementing Plan B

We often hear the phrase, “time for Plan B”. What do people mean when they make this casual comment? Plan B could range from making a minor adjustment in the plan for the day or a major switch in life.

Perhaps you were expecting a stop to your home from a service provider and due to an emergency elsewhere, you concerns were moved down on the priority list. Maybe you intended to have a restful evening at home and your car overheated after work, causing you to lose the evening due to towing and repairs.

You might have planned a trip Iceland and, guess what?! A volcano erupted. Maybe you had dreams that you child would attend your alma mater and the child has developmental cognitive delay.

All of the above examples signal the switch to Plan B. Thus you find yourself rescheduling your service provider, forgoing the quiet evening at home, changing vacation plans, planning for special services and seeking supports for your child.

This tells us one thing that is certain in life- that things can change in an instant and we must be prepared to switch gears and look for new opportunities, experiences and relationships on the route marked Plan B.

Blog #2 – 4 Tips for Transitioning with When Out of Town

May 5, 2010

When out of town for work or family purposes, consider tapping into the local community to connect with counterparts to your life back home. Following are four tips to ease the transition into a new community to help keep personal balance.

1. Maintain the same planner and “to do list” as always.

2. Exercise, even if it only involves walking in your “new neighborhood”. This helps with grounding.

3. Connect with your regular affiliations there, (e.g. support groups, clubs, churches).

4. Tap into your online community through social media or with family and friends on your cell.

When you return home, move comfortably  into your daily routine, exercise program, groups and relationships. Here’s to seamless transitioning when arriving and departing. Welcome home.